Thirst-trapping IG Influencer Jordan Firstman Says Gay Struggles Are Not Over

Sunday December 5, 2021

Self-described "closeted gay" Instagram comic Jordan Firstman discussed the state of gay life in an interview with pop star Charli XCX on the singer's BBC Sounds podcast "Best Song Ever, First," and says the misconception that the gay community's suffering is over, Pink News reports.

"Closeted gay filmmaker, actor, writer for thousands of tv shows such as 'Search Party,' 'The Other Two,' 'Big Mouth' and no others. WONT come out dont ask," he describes himself on IG.

"Gay is seen as so, like, 'Oh, they've gotten over their problems. They have PrEP, they can't get AIDS and they can get married, like they're good' [but] there is still so much underneath.

"... because gay men feel like they're done with the suffering, because the world has become more accepting, at least in the States, [they feel] that they don't need to do anything.

"There's not that much trauma, there's a little bit so it would be really easy to work on it but because right now no one feels like they need to work on it, that trauma ends up pushing gay men into these cycles of sex and drug abuse and partying."

Charli XCX asked Firstman which songs he feels soundtrack the experience of being a gay man.

He chose "Fabulous" from the High School Musical 2 soundtrack and "One is the Loneliest Number" by Aimee Mann, explaining about the latter: "Gay to me is like, delusion. Gay to me is ultimate loneliness."

Firstman also said that drug use amongst gay men is a form of escapism. "Totally. Gay men love to f**king party and they always have."

He also touched upon gay men's unwillingness for self-reflection. "To move forward they would have to do this work, and I think they think it's more work than they need to do but we can get past the trauma. And I'm totally guilty of it too," the social media star admits, "but I think I have an awareness that makes me at least want to figure out what it's all about."

The IG influencer, who went viral at the start of the pandemic for his comedic impressions of characters, including banana bread's publicist and the fly on Mike Pence's head. But months into his success, a series of inflammatory social media messages nearly canceled him. "It all started to spiral out of control, I had an attempted cancellation that was like... I'm like open about it now."


"Firstman faced heavy backlash in December 2020 when the notorious internet vigilante Instagram account Diet Prada unearthed derogatory tweets posted by the comedian in 2012," reports Pink News.

In one since-deleted tweet, he joked "about hiring a Black woman 'to fight in my place when needed,' and in a separate tweet, he joked about killing homeless people," adds Pink News.

He also tweeted: "I hate Indian people because at my last [Dunkin] donuts they knew my name and order and at this one they don't."

He quickly apologized on IG: "I wrote some offensive jokes on Twitter in 2012 when I was 19 that are now being circulated online. I am deeply regretful and sorry for these tweets; I was young and dumb and trying to find my comedic voice. I have grown a million lifetimes since and I do not stand by them in any way."

"Speaking nearly a year later about his overnight fame followed by extreme criticism over the tweets, Firstman told XCX: 'So that put me into a really deep, deep dark depression because I was like 'I don't understand why any of these things are happening, these ups and downs are so extreme."

He adds that he dealt with the stress of the experience by partying for a month and a half in Mexico.

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